Do your dancin’ boys ever want to do something other than dance? Do they have other interests…like soccer, snowboarding, or football? Julian used to play soccer, and he was quite good. When we’ve had time and money to go to the Sierra’s in the winter, he’s loved snowboarding, but we haven’t gone recently–much to his dismay.(Although I’ve avoided having him even go with friends.)
As a dancer, he really isn’t supposed to do anything like play soccer or go snowboarding. I know he’s only 15, but the artistic director of his pre-professional dance program at TDC frowns on him doing anything that puts him at risk of getting hurt. He was appalled when one of the other dancers gave him a soccer ball last year as a gift.
As a mother, I try to direct him away from these “dangerous” activities these days as well, although I feel vaguely guilty for doing so. Sometimes things seem out of my hands, though…like today. Julian came home and told me that he’d spent several hours after school playing soccer with some of the varsity soccer players.
Ack! Well, he came home unharmed, so that was a good thing, but still…
I must say I feel guilty for not wanting him to do things that are fun and that he’s actually good at. Plus, of course, taking part in these activities makes him feel “like” the other kids. It’s a social issue. Today he felt very accepted, especially when a varsity soccer player asked him if he played soccer for the school. When he said “no,” the boy said, “Well, you should.”
On the other hand, Julian doesn’t quite get that his body is his tool. Well, maybe he does get it, but he isn’t ready to give things up to care for that tool. I feel that I must protect that tool for him if he won’t–even if he doesn’t like me doing so.
Anyone else struggle with this issue? Moms? Dads? Boys?